You Should Always Tell the TRUTH – Johnnie Cass

Do youDo you tell the Truth? 
 
 
Do you tell the Truth all of the time, some of 
the time, and would you 'lie' if it were 'better' 
for the other person? 
 
“No, you look great in that outfit.” 
“I'm fine, don't worry.” 
“Our sex life is great.” 
“I'm busy.” 
 
Do you hold back from saying the Truth, to avoid 
conflict or pain? 
 
“I'm annoyed that you're late.” 
“You don't listen to me.” 
“You don't pay me attention.” 
“You're not grateful and you don't respect me.” 
 
And if you do, does it make you feel better or 
worse, both in the moment and as it stores up 
inside – sometimes over years and years? 
 
Here's the thing about Truth – it's rarely the 
'easy' option, to be honest with someone. And you 
might be surprised that even when you don't think 
you're lying, you're either lying, or you're 
holding back from telling the Truth: 
 
You're lying to yourself. 
 
Why do we do this? 
 
Because we need people to like us, love us, 
accept us and respect us. We don't want the pain, 
embarrassment or the conflict that we think the 
truth brings. 
 
So we think we are lying to protect others, but 
actually we are lying to protect ourselves, and 
we justify it internally. 
 
But it eats you up, doesn't it? It suppresses and 
brews and doesn't make us feel any better. It can 
often lead to years of frustration, and much pain 
in relationships – pain that we blame OTHERS for. 
 
The fact is that if we don't tell the truth, 
people can't like, love and accept us for who we 
are, because we are lying to them – we are 
withholding who we really are and offering a 
front; an alter ego of ourselves. 
 
The front thinks it is serving to protect us, but 
it is actually giving a false image of who we 
really are. 
 
This false image is accepted by others to be our 
true self, and we become liked or loved, or 
disliked, or worse hated, based on this front, or 
alter ego. 
 
The irony is that we will never feel truly loved 
by anyone, as even if they do accept us, they are 
accepting our alter ego. And we will never show 
them our true selves in order to be truly 
appreciated for who we really are. 
 
We expect people to 'understand' us, but we are 
not communicating who we are to them – and it 
becomes a viscous cycle as the Truth becomes 
harder and harder, and we feel more and more 
alone, disconnected and resentful. 
 
How will you ever attract the person of your 
dreams, or the right team mates / employees / JV 
partners, if you are never showing the world who 
you really are? 
 
At best they will connect with your alter ego 
front, and at worse you'll never be found or 
understood by anyone. 
 
And consider this: if you don't show who you 
~really~ are, how will the beautiful souls on the 
planet who are looking for ~you~, find you? 
They'll see your “front”, and move on! 
 
So try this: 
 
Next time you have an opportunity to tell someone 
the Truth as you see it, even if in that moment 
it could cause conflict, pain or embarrassment 
[which most of the time it doesn't]… 
 
TELL THEM THE TRUTH. 
 
Is it risky? Yes? 
 
Will it totally change your life? Probably? 
 
Risky, but simple: Tell the Truth. 
 
When you're willing to express the truth, and 
risk sharing it, you open up the world to accept 
you for who you are. 
 
For real connection and love. 
 
Love of you, not a false you. 
 
You're able to grow and continually discover. 
 
It all of a sudden becomes OK to feel a certain 
way, and be a certain way, even if it is painful. 
 
It is truly liberating. 
 
Now you're able to attract those people ready 
for, and looking for, you. People who know they 
want you. 
 
You're able to be true to others and give them 
something that connects with who they really are. 
 
Fair Warning: 
 
You have to be ready that telling the Truth also 
creates tension and pain [as telling lies does] – 
the only risk is short term 'pain' for long term 
connection and Truth, where lies almost always 
lead to long term pain. 
 
And in opening up to the Truth, the one right 
choice to make in any situation, we also have to 
be prepared to take in the Truth from others, and 
allow them the freedom of Truth too. 
 
The easiest way you can action this is to be 
honest 😉 and just let people know what you are 
doing and why. 
 
Sure, they may find you a little weird or on 
drugs at first, but watch how your relationships 
become real and not a façade anymore. 
 
Watch how they deepen and watch how you learn to 
accept pain and fear for the benefits they bring 
you. 
 
Let them know they can say anything, and you'll 
simply listen and not judge. 
 
BUT… 
 
If you're not willing to put your 'stuff' aside, 
don't try this. 
 
“If you don't risk anything, you risk everything” 
 
Thanks to my good friend Neil Asher for the 
inspiration. 
 
 
Comments, rants or disagreements welcome @ 
ask@unlimited-success.co.uk 
 
 
And watch out for the next installment: 
 
“How to Overcome Any Stressful Situation Without 
Hugging Trees” 
 
 
Live Your Life by Design, my friend 
 
Johnnie Cass  tell the Truth? 
 
Do you tell the Truth all of the time, some of 
the time, and would you 'lie' if it were 'better' 
for the other person? 
 
“No, you look great in that outfit.” 
“I'm fine, don't worry.” 
“Our sex life is great.” 
“I'm busy.” 
 
Do you hold back from saying the Truth, to avoid 
conflict or pain? 
 
“I'm annoyed that you're late.” 
“You don't listen to me.” 
“You don't pay me attention.” 
“You're not grateful and you don't respect me.” 
 
And if you do, does it make you feel better or 
worse, both in the moment and as it stores up 
inside – sometimes over years and years? 
 
Here's the thing about Truth – it's rarely the 
'easy' option, to be honest with someone. And you 
might be surprised that even when you don't think 
you're lying, you're either lying, or you're 
holding back from telling the Truth: 
 
You're lying to yourself. 
 
Why do we do this? 
 
Because we need people to like us, love us, 
accept us and respect us. We don't want the pain, 
embarrassment or the conflict that we think the 
truth brings. 
 
So we think we are lying to protect others, but 
actually we are lying to protect ourselves, and 
we justify it internally. 
 
But it eats you up, doesn't it? It suppresses and 
brews and doesn't make us feel any better. It can 
often lead to years of frustration, and much pain 
in relationships – pain that we blame OTHERS for. 
 
The fact is that if we don't tell the truth, 
people can't like, love and accept us for who we 
are, because we are lying to them – we are 
withholding who we really are and offering a 
front; an alter ego of ourselves. 
 
The front thinks it is serving to protect us, but 
it is actually giving a false image of who we 
really are. 
 
This false image is accepted by others to be our 
true self, and we become liked or loved, or 
disliked, or worse hated, based on this front, or 
alter ego. 
 
The irony is that we will never feel truly loved 
by anyone, as even if they do accept us, they are 
accepting our alter ego. And we will never show 
them our true selves in order to be truly 
appreciated for who we really are. 
 
We expect people to 'understand' us, but we are 
not communicating who we are to them – and it 
becomes a viscous cycle as the Truth becomes 
harder and harder, and we feel more and more 
alone, disconnected and resentful. 
 
How will you ever attract the person of your 
dreams, or the right team mates / employees / JV 
partners, if you are never showing the world who 
you really are? 
 
At best they will connect with your alter ego 
front, and at worse you'll never be found or 
understood by anyone. 
 
And consider this: if you don't show who you 
~really~ are, how will the beautiful souls on the 
planet who are looking for ~you~, find you? 
They'll see your “front”, and move on! 
 
So try this: 
 
Next time you have an opportunity to tell someone 
the Truth as you see it, even if in that moment 
it could cause conflict, pain or embarrassment 
[which most of the time it doesn't]… 
 
TELL THEM THE TRUTH. 
 
Is it risky? Yes? 
 
Will it totally change your life? Probably? 
 
Risky, but simple: Tell the Truth. 
 
When you're willing to express the truth, and 
risk sharing it, you open up the world to accept 
you for who you are. 
 
For real connection and love. 
 
Love of you, not a false you. 
 
You're able to grow and continually discover. 
 
It all of a sudden becomes OK to feel a certain 
way, and be a certain way, even if it is painful. 
 
It is truly liberating. 
 
Now you're able to attract those people ready 
for, and looking for, you. People who know they 
want you. 
 
You're able to be true to others and give them 
something that connects with who they really are. 
 
Fair Warning: 
 
You have to be ready that telling the Truth also 
creates tension and pain [as telling lies does] – 
the only risk is short term 'pain' for long term 
connection and Truth, where lies almost always 
lead to long term pain. 
 
And in opening up to the Truth, the one right 
choice to make in any situation, we also have to 
be prepared to take in the Truth from others, and 
allow them the freedom of Truth too. 
 
The easiest way you can action this is to be 
honest 😉 and just let people know what you are 
doing and why. 
 
Sure, they may find you a little weird or on 
drugs at first, but watch how your relationships 
become real and not a façade anymore. 
 
Watch how they deepen and watch how you learn to 
accept pain and fear for the benefits they bring 
you. 
 
Let them know they can say anything, and you'll 
simply listen and not judge. 
 
BUT… 
 
If you're not willing to put your 'stuff' aside, 
don't try this. 
 
“If you don't risk anything, you risk everything” 
 
Thanks to my good friend Neil Asher for the 
inspiration. 
 
 
Comments, rants or disagreements welcome @ 
ask@unlimited-success.co.uk 
 
 
And watch out for the next installment: 
 
“How to Overcome Any Stressful Situation Without 
Hugging Trees” 
 
 
Live Your Life by Design, my friend 
 
Johnnie Cass 
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